Friday, 19 December 2025

Some Chinese practices: 07 (Almost default emotional ranking)

 

This blog is (as has often been the case) inspired by a WhatsApp texting conversation with my old friend who is visiting his mother in Rome.

    He has two younger siblings (a brother and a sister), so I asked which one of them is the closest to the mother.  He came back with their geographical proximity to her, so I had to explain that I was looking for an emotional perspective, adding what the default situation is in a lot of Chinese families.

    There are five of us children in my family, with four girls and a boy.  

    By default, the boy, especially if he is the only one, is the favourite.

    Being the youngest, I'm also, by default, a favourite.

    Another criterion is:  scholastic performance.  Good school results almost always ensure one's place in the heart(s) of the parent(s), if not the extended family as well.

    I remember wondering, when I was still at school: "What if I was born ugly and stupid?"



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